Often, I write about “Integrity”… one of my own personal choices in life. Although I take a great deal of “heat” in doing so sometimes-I make the choice of handling issues in my life with Integrity: you know, making the right choice in spite of the outcome. That involves telling the truth. Sometimes, these “truths” are said to others, even when they might not be welcome at the time. Sometimes, I am not “liked” afterwards.
When one chooses not to address a wrong in a close friend’s, family member’s, or loved one’s life, especially if it affects others negatively, to me that’s prideful. It’s the easy way out and it’s the path of least resistance. I believe it translates that you care for your own well-being more than the well-being of others. That, to me, lacks integrity. With this choice, we are more concerned with being “liked” than trying to right a wrong that is clearly evident and hurtful to others. Hurting another human is never o.k.
True, when we make the attempt to correct a wrong…we usually ruffle some feathers. Actually, we always ruffle feathers. We have to actively step out of our own comfort zone and approach someone who has been safely “existing” (perhaps not even living) in his/her comfort zone. Sometimes, they are even oblivious to the self-destruction of their own actions.
It’s difficult to address someone about his/her negative choices in life that affect others. But it can be done.
Then, should the other person continue on the same path, we have the decision to make whether we partake in their lives or remove ourselves.
Decisions of integrity are often painful for all parties, but in the end… are the only solution.